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In the News, PSU Scandal

In the news,

With feelings running high on campus after the firing of Penn State head football coach Joe Paterno and the university’s president, a debate is raging about where the focus should rest in the scandal. [Read more at CNN]

It’s only today that I finally caught on to the Penn State University scandal.

I don’t follow sports. I don’t have any sports sensibility. I am not into sports, at all. What I am is a mother of 2 young boys.

I am sad, that …

  • It took nine and a half more years before a child molester is finally caught.
  • It took enough man in position, in power, in supposed good moral fiber to know, and yet nothing was still done by them to have a crime against a child go punished and prevented.

How so very true, “All that’s necessary for the forces of evil to win in the world is for enough good men to do nothing.” (Edmund Burke)

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In the News, On Breeding

In the news,…

Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar, stars of TLC’s “19 Kids and Counting,” are expecting their 20th child this spring. “We are so excited,” says Michelle, 45, who is now about three-and-a-half months into her pregnancy and due in April. “I feel good. I am past the sickness stage now.” [Read more from CNN.]

Duggar Family

More power to them! Seriously!

I love the fact that:

  • they are debt-free, and own their own home
  • all their kids learns to play the piano and violin
  • in the TV appearances that I have seen of them, the kids are well behaved, respectful and well-spoken
  • that the older siblings help with the younger ones, and each one of them has jurisdiction, chores

I just don’t see anything wrong with the bigger siblings having to help out with the younger ones and that they help out around the house. Having two ever present parents around, I don’t see that as the bigger siblings RAISING the younger siblings. They are taking care of each other. As far as I can see, the kids are getting hands-on training on responsibility and compassion having to care for each other. They are being prepared for life! And they will grow up to be loving and productive individuals.

Growing up, my parents told me and my siblings to take care of each other. As a parent, I will do same thing, to encourange my kids to take care of each other. I am sure, most parent tell their kids the same thing. Why does this have to change just because there are 20 siblings around, or that there is diaper-changing involved?

As far as the attention and love going around, with both parents and the so many siblings around, I am sure there are TOO MUCH of love and attention going around, that I bet, they are sick of it. This  is the downside of having this crowd of a family.

And far as the mom’s health scare is concerned, considering her last pregnancy, she seemed geniunely up for another challenge but she’s seems to be preparing herself well. I hope it’s going to be a healthy pregnancy for her and her baby sake.

As I was watching their show last night, I was really impressed by this family. I would rather have 20 more of these Duggar kids in this world, who would become loving and productive people in the future, to balance out every unfortunate kid born from deadbeat dads, trashy moms, unfit parents and unproductive people who should have never been allowed to breed.

If only there is ONE child with similar, if not the same, upbringing as a Duggar child, FOR EVERY THOUSAND of unfortunate children born from unfit parents and who would most likely end up to be like their parents, then there is hope for our over-populated world.

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In other news,…

In case you’ve been up nights wondering whether or not teen bride Courtney Stodden has fake breasts, we’ve got some news. The 17-year-old target of every plastic surgery rumor in the book underwent an ultrasound on camera for Dr. Drew Pinsky’s Lifechangers to prove, once and for all, that she doesn’t have implants. [Read more at EOnline.]

Hooray, her breasts are real! (Sarcasm here!)

I really don’t get the point in her having to prove her breast are real!

At 17-years old, isn’t she supposed to be in school, not on a TV show parading herself like that – in full make-up, and hair, and with a 51-year old husband? Where is her mother?

Real or fake breast, showing herself in TV that way proved she’s a trashy, dumb woman! And I have even more to say about the adults surrounding her.

She and her 51-year old husband, now there’s a couple who should never be allowed to breed.

Trending Now: No Gender Baby

Have you heard about the Genderless Baby Storm ?

Baby Storm is born to parents who decided to keep his or her gender a secret! Only six people — apart from Storm — know the baby’s biological sex: the parents, his or her two brothers Jazz, 5, and Kio, 2, and the two midwives present at the baby’s birth.

Storm’s parents has this to say…

We’ve decided not to share Storm’s sex for now — a tribute to freedom and choice in place of limitation, a stand up to what the world could become in Storm’s lifetime (a more progressive place? …),

Personally, I don’t approve with the parents’ decision to keep their baby’s gender a secret, for the following points:

  • IT’S MISLEADING!

The parents claim “tribute to freedom and choice in place of limitation ” but they are placing this tribute over a matter that is not about freedom and choice. The baby’s gender, at this point of the baby’s life, is not about freedom and choice yet , but what the baby is born with.

  • IT’S POINTLESS!

IDEALLY, at this point of the baby’s life, being he or she is still a baby, his or her gender doesn’t matter yet. It doesn’t even matter which bathroom the baby uses for diaper changing. So keeping the baby’s gender a secret is pointless, and forces an issue on a subject matter that is a non-issue .

When the baby is older and starts to identify his or her gender, whether it goes with what the body he is born with or not, that is when, right there and then, his or her gender becomes about his or her own freedom and choice!

  • IT INVITES UNNECESSARY INTIMIDATION AND AWKWARDNESS!

I DO however recognize that IN REALITY, we live in a gender-bias society. It DOES matter for most people what the baby’s gender is, especially for those who have a different treatment or stereotypes towards girls and boys.

I myself have a gender bias. When I was pregnant twice, I have a preference for a baby girl. I dreamt of all the pink tutus and ribbons and feathers I can pin to her long hair. But I am blessed with 2 boys, whom I prefer to have no ribbons and feathers on their short hairs, but this doesn’t mean I love them less.

So because of this reality, when parents pose a baby or a child as either a boy or a girl, or neither, they set up the child to no-gender-bias, having people be indifferent or unsure or feel awkward towards that child in question. The parents claims “freedom and choice in place of limitation“, but what they are actually doing is limiting the child of people’s preference of treatment, and in the process, this places in unnecessary awkwardness and indifference brought on by secrecy.

  • THE SECRECY COMPLICATES IT ALL!

I DO recognize Baby Storm’s parents’ intention to surpass the limitations brought by gender bias and stereotype, but bringing in secrecy is wrong. I think, it’s wrong to keep a secret about something as basic as gender. It’s suspicious, troublesome and dishonest. What kind of message are these parents sending to their older kids?

There are better and honest ways to keep their children beyond the limits of gender bias and stereotype. They are already maintaining a gender-bending household or lifestyle for their older children. Why not just continue on with that?

ALSO, the secrecy of Baby Storm’s gender forces and limits people within their circle to subscribe to their beliefs and lifestyle. Who limits who now?

Does this issue of the genderless baby boggles your mind? What’s your take on it?

Top 3 – Blog Pet Peeves

I am not blog authority and don’t have any intentions of being one. But I have been blogging for quite some time now, and there are some blogging trends that are really annoying me lately.

SUMMARY CONTENT FEEDS

First off, I don’t like clutter. I don’t like seeing so many buttons, badges and ads blinking and rotating all over the blog content. It distracts me from reading the content. What’s worse is when some kind of music comes on. Plus, it takes up so much time and memory to load all these stuffs in my browser. But I understand that what maybe clutter to me, is gold for some bloggers. I understand that putting most of the buttons, badges and ads is how bloggers make money on their blog. (I make money posting a few ads on this blog.)

So I do not dismiss a blog because of the clutter. That is why, I subscribe to the RSS feeds. I prefer reading blogs on the RSS reader anyway, where the content is in its simplest form. But if the feeds provide only the title, or a sentence or just a summary, then the RSS feeds are usually useless to me.

I understand that some bloggers choose this option to provide the Summary Content Feeds, so that the subscribers are forced to visit the site. As far as I am concerned, I visit the site when I comment. I can’t comment if I can’t read the full content. And usually, those blogs with no full content feeds are the ones I visit last or generally skip when I am constrained with time.

NO-CONTENT COMMENTS

When I have the time, I blog hop. I like blog hopping. I like visiting other people’s blog and reading their contents. I know it can be time consuming but … I really enjoy doing that. I also enjoy reading the comments. I think, the discussions in the comments adds to the contents. If their post is relevant to me, meaningful, funny or I have something to say, I’d join in the discussion.

Lately I have been seeing these comments, “I just followed your blog, please follow me back. ” What exactly does that mean? I also see some comments that are so vague and are way off the posts content.

Most of the time, you get these kinds of comments when you participate in the blog-hop-follow-kind-a-blog-meme. You don’t see so much of these kinds of comments here, since I participate in very few memes and blog hops. As you can see, I do not have a lot of followers. But I feel sad and annoyed for those blogs with well-meaning blog posts, which obviously took a lot of time and heart to write, but are getting these kinds of very vague impersonal no-content comments, as they do not add to the content. When I see a trail of comments like these on a certain blog post, it usually discourages me to leave my comment.

When I follow a blog, this means I have subscribed to their RSS feeds. I read their content. When I comment, I hate cluttering other people’s blog so I make sure I leave a relevant comment. I can only hope my comment is as relevant and as meaningful to them. If I have nothing to add, my comment cannot be relevant, so I rather not comment at all.

Moreover, on my blog hopping, guess whose blog I go to next? Usually, it’s of the one who left the most relevant, thoughtful, meaningful comment.

APOLOGY

I don’t get why some bloggers apologize for their content or no content. I am not talking about apologizing to someone for an offense. I am talking about blog post that usually starts with, “I’m sorry I haven’t been blogging for awhile…” or “I am so sorry that I have to mention this …“.

I believe that your blog should be about YOU. It should relay your voice. If you start with apologizing to your readers about your content or no content, it’s usually a sign that you are trying to please your readers. Then your content diminishes to be about you and your blog becomes more geared towards being about your reader. More likely your readers have a blog of their own that is already about them. Why are you making your blog about them, too?

I understand that you appreciate your readers and your followers, but there are better ways to please them than apologizing. The best way, I think, to please your readers is to provide a content that is about YOU, the person they are supposedly following.

So do not apologize for your content. Most of all, make your blog your own! It should be your voice, your insight, your beliefs, your identity. It should be about you! If someone gets offended by your content, then, maybe, that is the time to apologize.

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IF you feel like you are one of these bloggers, please take no offense. AS this is NOT meant to offend you. This is about me and the things that annoy me. After all, this is my blog.

Most of all, please do not apologize. You are entitled to your own content, or no content for that matter, on your post or feeds, even the contents of your own comments. So what if they annoy me? However, since I am annoyed with no-content comments, comments left here in this blog that do not add to the discussion will be considered a spam.

AS a blogger and your potential true follower, I encourage you to provide a content. Content that doesn’t have to be smart or witty or long. It just have to be about YOU and from your heart, both – on your blog and on your comments.

Top 3 – Vanities I Can’t Get Over

I have recently written about some trends people, women especially, do in the name of beauty that I don’t get . This time I am listing my own top three vanities.

Read Top 3 – Vanities I Don’t Get.

A thing of beauty is a joy forever. ~ John Keats

LONG STRAIGHT BLACK HAIR

If it wasn’t too time-consuming, I’d be straightening my hair everyday and not always tie it on a pony tail. And with two babies, it’s not practical to let my long hair down. My long hair is such a hindrance all the time in most of the domestic stuffs I do. I complain about it a lot. I think about chopping them off. I even planned to do it a few times, but I always end up not doing it. I love my long black hair! I’d continue to love my hair long, even when that day comes when I have to start dyeing them too.

EYE-LINED EYES WITH CURLED EYELASHES

My very first cosmetic product, that I owned, is a dark brown eyeliner pencil. I started wearing eyeliner when I was 14, at 2nd-year High School, at school. At the nun school for girls, that I went to, wearing any makeup was not allowed, but somehow no one really noticed it until after a year. A teacher called me privately and said “I noticed something about your eyes.” Then she looked straight to my eye-lined eyes and said, “I see. ” And then she smiled. I knew she noticed my eyeliner, but she didn’t discouraged me or anything.

After High School, I’ve been liberally putting make-up on, including curling my eyelashes and putting mascara on. At one time, while I was hanging out with a guy friend, I did a little touch up on my makeup. I looked at myself in the mirror and curled my eyelashes with an eyelash curler. I noticed my friend staring at me so intently. I stopped and looked at him. He said (in our Filipino language), “You fooled me. All this time, I thought your curly eyelashes were all natural.” I wanted to say, “They are all naturally curly, but just needed some enhancement .” but I ended up just laughing him off. That time, I didn’t swear off my eyelash curler, but I swore off retouching my makeup in public.

These days, I rarely put makeup on. Actually, I’m lucky if I am able to take a shower. But on those very rare occasion I put makeup on, I always do my eyes first and just a dab of color on my lips. I think I am more keen at keeping my makeup underdone.

Beauty … is not the image you would see nor the song you would hear, but rather an image you see though you close your eyes and a song you hear though you shut your ears. ~ Kahlil Gibran

EARRINGS

I wear necklaces only if my blouse looks like it needs it. I don’t really like wearing anything in my hands or arms except for my wedding ring. I don’t even wear a wrist watch. But earrings, I love to wear earrings. And I am so particular with my earrings. They must be small to medium sized stud, hoop or dangles in simple to classic design.

Beauty is only skin deep, but it is a valuable asset if you are poor or have not any sense. ~ Kin Hubbard

I think I’ve reached a point in my life when I’ve already reconciled with how I look. I have established which beauty style I like and hopefully, I already know what type of trend would work for me. However, I still try to do improvements and enhancements with my looks. I have mishaps of course, a lot actually. And each mishap is a learning experience, and it becomes, when comforting myself, a reminder of the real meaning of true beauty. These days, while I am unable to do anything for myself, or when I simply procrastinate on myself, the same reminder comforts me. I can only hope that I have a few, if not all, of what it takes for true beauty.

The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides.
The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode, but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives and the passion that she shows.
The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years. ~Sam Levenson

Top 3 – Vanities I Don’t Get

vanity n. , pl. , -ties . The quality or condition of being vain. Something that is vain, empty, or valueless

In the name of beauty, at one point or another (actually several points in life), I have been a victim of all the trends that supposedly will make me look better – like wearing heavy make-up to wearing high heeled shoes that I just can’t walk on with, and more. But I have never done anything extreme or permanent for my looks because I don’t have the guts! But even if I do have the guts, there are a few trends that I will not do because I just don’t get them even though a lot of people, women especially, are into them.

ODD PIERCINGS, TRASHY TATTOOS

Photo from Wikipedia.

I have nothing against piercings and tattoos. Actually I respect people who have piercings and tattoos of a cultural nature or out of artistic or personal expression. But in my observation, those who get them out of less than meaningful reasons, like thinking that a piercing or a tattoo will make them look sexy or sophisticated, usually end up with trashy looking tattoos or piercings on odd locations. And no matter the reason, as for piercings, the most I just can’t get is piercing at the nostril. It just looks so odd for a face to have a nose ring, or a nose stud, or anything hanging from a nose. Not at all attractive.

Your smile is your best accessory. ~ unknown

EXCESSIVE EXTREME PERMANENT MAKEOVERS

Honestly, I get liposuction, boob job, nose job, and all those procedures in the name of beauty. What I don’t get is going through all of them to change or supposedly improve looks. I mean, really, how much do you hate yourself, to risk your life and undergo these procedures.

At the end of the day, even if you end up looking better after all the procedures, your surgically enhanced beauty will be defined by the procedure and not your own.

Beauty is life when life unveils her holy face. But you are life and you are the veil.
Beauty is eternity gazing at itself in a mirror. But you are eternity and you are the mirror.
~ Kahlil Gibran

TANNING, BLEACHING

I don’t get tanning. Must be because I was born with a dark skin. Must be because I grew up in the Philippines avoiding the sun, because 5-minute or less sun exposure at the peak of the day in the Philippines means heat stroke!

At one time, a friend was tanning. She applied generous amount of baby oil on her skin and strategically laid down on her tanning chair to get the most sun exposure on her skin. That was the first time I saw someone do all the tanning procedure in front of me and I was dumbfounded. She was literally frying her skin. Doesn’t it hurt? Even in my dark skin, when I get too much sun exposure, it hurts.

I don’t get fake tanning either. I just don’t see the beauty of an orange, tanned or burnt skin over a natural skin.

Because of my dark skin, what applies to me is skin bleaching. But even that I don’t get. I don’t see how a bleached skinned me is ever going to make me look better.

The first question I ask myself when something doesn’t seem to be beautiful is why do I think it’s not beautiful. And very shortly you discover that there is no reason. ~ John Cage

Also read, Top 3 – Vanities I Can’t Get Over.

Life Unscripted, Viva Chile

Viva Chile! What an impeccable rescue operation by the Chilean government! I specifically like the transparency of the operation. With having cameras at different angles, there just won’t be any deniability if something went wrong. And of course, no deniability is great when things go well.

I was glued to the TV. I started watching at maybe at the 13th miner to be rescued. I watched as the miners emerged from the ground and come out if the capsule. What an amazing experience just to watch it on TV, the happy reunion. I was crying at each one. Matthew my 4-year old, who didn’t understand kept asking my why I was crying. I just told him, I wasn’t feeling well.

And of course, life has a surprising way of adding more drama or maybe a little bit of comedy to the show. One of the miners was discovered by the wife to have a mistress on the days leading to the rescue. You can not make that up! And to top that off, the miner wanted both, the wife and the mistress, to be there to greet him when he comes out. He was ended up greeted by just the mistress. I think the wife decided not to be there because if whe was there, she might shove him back to the underground.

As of this writing the last of the 33 miners has been rescued. All in all, the rescue has been faultless, well thought of, well organized, fully choreographed, just impeccable. Fingers crossed that it will remain that way for the remaining rescue workers, who are still underground.

I will never be able to wrap my brains how the miners endured with great spirits after being trapped underground for 69 days total. They are so resilient. Their strength of faith is very inspiring!

I can not wait for the movie release of this true-to-life success story!

August 23 for the Philippines

This is current events but maybe not too current anymore!

On Monday August 23, a disgruntled former senior inspector from the Manila Police District hijacked a tour bus carrying 25 tourists from Hong Kong in an attempt to get his job back. He said that he was summarily dismissed without the opportunity to properly defend himself, and that all he wanted was a fair hearing.

As a result of the ten-hour siege, the ensuing shootout, and a botched rescue attempt by Philippine national police watched by millions on live television news, eight of the hostages died and nine other people were injured. [Read more.]

I’m really a true Filipino by heart. I am so embarrassed and disheartened by an event like this, that puts the Philippines in bad light. I’m so sad with what happened, how tragic it ended.

The mistakes done by those who were supposed in-charge of the situation were overwhelmingly so obvious, and SO DUMB! It was a BIG show of arrogance, disorganization and ineffectiveness of the Philippine Government and Philippine National Police; and of how obscenely irresponsible and abusive the local media had become.

Not to mention, the event further exposed the underlying corruption in the Philippines and how slow the Philippine System is! Sigh! It’s so frustrating.

No matter how the government and the police justify themselves by saying they did all they could do, their actions will always be evaluated by the terrible outcome. And the media, there will never be any justification for their irresponsible sensationalized programming.

I can only hope that time will heal all wounds of the surviving victims especially and the loved-ones of those who died; And that the Philippines will rise up from this major, major embarrassment.

On a lighter note, later on the day of the hostage crisis, an upset for Miss Philippines in the Miss Universe 2010 Pageant in Las Vegas.

If not for the unfair question of “What is the biggest mistake that you’ve ever made in your life and what did you do to make it right?”, she could have stolen the Miss Universe Crown.

How exactly do you answer that question? The first part of the question is not even a matter of opinion. It needs serious pondering and soul searching. I don’t think anyone can ever have an effective answer by pondering on a mistake, a negative subject, in their entire lives in a whopping 3-seconds, especially after an exciting, very positive moment – being called in as one of the Top-5, in front of up roaring crowd. However, if she have focus more on the second part of the question instead by answering it in general, she’d probably have a better answer.

Congratulation to Miss Philippines, Venus Raj, for winning 4th Runner up Miss Universe 2010.

What Happened to the Roman Catholic Church

What has happened to the Roman Catholic Church? How sad it is that even the Pope, the head of the Catholic Church and the very person Catholics look up to, is being scrutinized and his immunity being speculated as to whether he can be held criminally responsible for the sex crimes by pedophile priests for the alleged cover up he did and for gross negligence. How very sad that pedophilia even exist in reality as something committed by supposed holy men.

I was raised Catholic and even went to Catholic Schools, including the university I went to in college. I grew up practicing Catholic traditions more than going to church on Sundays and Holy days of obligation and learning about the Catholic religion as part of the school curriculum. Having done so, I have seen a good number of clergy people – priests and nuns, and have witnessed the goodness and not-so-good about them.

I know of a priest who is an alcoholic; another has a bad temper who is known to cuss and call names; and there’s another who allegedy have mistresses. And I know of a few nuns who supposedly vowed to poverty and simplicity, and yet they are as vain and proud as can be. Not to mention there are 2 novels in High School Filipino Literature that are required reading, the Noli Me tangere and El Filibusterismo . These novels are based from the Spaniards’ rule in the Philippines and they include priests as villain, as bad as you can imagine them to be. My exposure to them made me know for a fact that – they are as fallible as any human being.

With this exposure and realization, I am not surprised but I am so saddened reading about unspeakable wrongdoings of clergical people – the act committed; how they cover up each other or ignore the wrongdoing like it never happened; or how the act is denied like these clergy people are not capable of doing wrong just because they are priests or nuns, like they are somehow superior and have above human tendencies. It’s hypocritical! I am especially saddened when the scandal has reached the Papacy. But I am not undermining that a lot, lot of them are also striving to uphold good values – just like any good human beings; that a lot of them are profound, kind, well intentioned and trust worthy; a good source of advice and guidance, and great facilitators of the Catholic religion.

But I am all for punishing the guilty and those involved, especially if the wrongdoing is against children – scarring them for life and taking away their innocence. I mean if a person acted worse than animals, they should be punished and treated worse than animals as well – whether they are priests, nuns, doctors, a policemen, etc. If they are guilty, they should be held responsible for the wrongdoing.

However, the fact of the matter is with the Vatican’s centuries and decades of political influence over all the world, it will be hard for the law to touch the Pope or any high ranking clergy person. This should change however. And the Vatican should, more than apologize but start visible and effective acts to clean up their kitchen. Sex abuse by their members is such a delicate matter to ignore or mishandle. Consequently, a change in a few or many aspects of the Roman Catholic religion that don’t work anymore may be inevitable.

That Movie ‘New Moon’

Photo: Aloha Friday, http://islandlife808.com/Have you seen that movie ‘New Moon’? Did you like it?

We have just watched ‘New Moon’, the sequel to ‘Twilight’. For me, the trick to watching this movie series is to have minimal expectation to like it.

When I watched ‘Twilight’, I was really disappointed overall, that I am really embarrassed that I got a copy of that movie, and that I had hubby watch it too. So with no enthusiasm, I agreed to getting a copy of the sequel ‘New Moon’, just because we have seen the first one. It’s just tradition to watch a series.

With low expectations, we watched ‘New Moon’. And I liked it more than Twilight. I still haven’t read any of the books, but I had a better experience with this movie. It’s almost entertaining, if not for the so much reference to Twilight, which is understandable. It is still slow for my taste of movies, but it’s more gripping than Twilight. It still has bad acting and crappy lines, but it came with better effects this time and a somewhat better twists in the story. Maybe it’s the love triangle … or all the abs and chest exposure by the leading guys – I surely didn’t miss that!

On Tiger Woods’ Public Apology

I can’t help but have an opinion with all the Tiger Woods coverage! I mean, he’s all over the news and everyone seems to have an opinion about him and his public apology. I can’t help but hear them and form an opinion myself.

On the subject of whether he needs to publicly apologize at all , because he is a public figure, I guess he should be – publicly apologizing! Afterall, he’s been looked up to somehow as a wholesome role model of some sort, not only by his American fans but also by a lot of Asian fans. He has a worldwide fanbase. And maybe a lot of aspiring young golfers or not wants to be like him, it is very important for his young fans to hear from him that even with much fame and fortune that he has, he is NOT entitled to any bad behavior.

On the subject of his sincerity, who knows if he is really sincere? He appeared sincere to me. He said he was sorry, and he looked sorry. I don’t need to see the man sobbing and crying while saying he’s sorry when it’s not his personality to do that. If he has to read his speech, then go for it. And, what more can he say at this time? What more can he do, really?

On the subject of his wife not being there during his speech , … my reaction is – thank God she’s not there! I really hate to see women standing-by-their-man in that sort of way, looking dumb and stupid with nothing to say. She’s not the one who needs to apologize. And she doesn’t need to support him while he apologizes to her, so I’m glad she left him on his own to do what he needed to do. On whether, they should stay married or not, is none of my business.

On the subject of whether he needs to be apologizing to the other women is actually puzzliing to me. Why? What exactly did these other women expect him to be apologizing for? Should he be apologizing to them for choosing his wife and family over each and everyone of them? As far as I know, none of these other women were coerced to have a relationship with him, or it would have been ‘rape’, and all this will be a criminal issue. But the fact of the matter is they were consenting adults on a cheating relationship. And there’s not just one but a lot of them. Should he be apologizing only to those who came out, to the one he got pregnant first, and then the one he was caught with? Or should he be mentioning each and everyone of them, all the 20 or so of these other women. It even puzzles me that some of them came out. I question their motivation for coming out – hired a lawyer, a publicist and have been interviewed and added themselves to the spectable. And as far as apologizing goes, I think these other women should be the ones apologizing as well to the wife PRIVATELY, for being his accomplice to his very bad behavior. Or, they really need to just shut up, move on, and stop putting the spotlight on themselves. Again, I hate to see women acting dumb and stupid.

Live and Let Live

If I have to choose just one quote to live by, that will be:

Live and let live. – Unknown

I wish I know who to quote on this one but I just don’t know who was the first to come up with this very inspiring line – “Live and let live!” It talks about freedom and tolerance.

There are so many standards to follow – religions, tradition and lifestyle, to pattern how we can live our lives. Which one to follow should be our own choice, and not just because we are complying.

There are so many hindrances to living – those that makes life difficult, like problems, depression, heartache, frustration, among others. To get them by is to just live, to just continue living each day and realize that whatever prevents us from enjoying life will soon pass. If it doesn’t, by then, we have already learned to live with it.

And if we are the freedom to live our own lives, then we should let others have their own lives as well and let them be no matter how diversed they are. Tolerance! I think the greatest sin is to kill and to steal , which is the opposite of to let live . And I’m not just talking about killing and stealing as the taking of lives or the taking of material things, but also the killing of the ones spirit or the stealing of ones dreams with the malicious intent or the consequence of preventing others to live the lives they want.

This is my first participation to Sunday Citar. I had been following Fresh Mommy for along time now for it’s Sunday Citar, 30 Days Series, and the wonderful photographs of her and her family.